Let Alone Succeed, Fail Even To Attempt

There are success and failure is the failure of which failed. The failure of the first kind is a necessary condition of success, while the second failure is the absurdity of life.

If the first one similar to humus for plants, the second is the rust of iron. Both humus and rust centered on a single source:
  
Behavior. There are behaviors that nurture, there is a deadly behavior. Very dangerous if the death took place slowly because it will make the victim at ease in the midst of danger. When he woke up, everything is useless. That's the nature of the eroded iron rust so intense and definite. 

So, let's see what kind of behavior that makes life rusty. I would see myself just let it easier to find examples of cases. For example, I was mortified when considering all that has been my good rust through and which I still do until now. At junior high I never fail to be class treasurer social gathering, social gathering because it was just money I spent for snack slowly but surely.

I berated myself all out of this behavior. It is not easy because even to be angry with yourself, take the business so hard. If you just rely on another party sanctions mean it's not a lot. All kinds of sanctions only in the presence of a small taste of being a dark heart. The most effective sanction in reality have come from my own consciousness. And the first awareness that it was not fear, but of shame. And the shame of the mostevocative is not ashamed of the other party, but shame to yourself . And the first awareness that it was not fear, but of shame. And the shame of the most evocative is not ashamed of the other party, but shame to yourself.

Saya ingat bagaimana mekanisme malu ini dimulai. Pertama saya disadarkan pada keterbatasan tampang saya sendiri. Walau tidak jelek-jelek amat, tampang saya lebih dekat ke jelek ketimbang ganteng. Di waktu kecil kejelekan itu malah terasa sekali. Bahkan tanpa harus berbuat aib dan salah pun saya sudah biasa grogi tampil dengan tampang pas-pasan ini. Lalu apa jadinya jika sudah tampang rusak, kelakuan ikut pula rusak? Pertanyaan ini tampaknya sederhana, tapi efeknya fundamental sekali. Pelan-pelan ada dorongan bahwa saya tidak ingin jelek dua kali. Jelek tampang, jelek laku. Saya tidak mungkin mengubah tampang, tapi saya pasti bisa mengubah perilaku.


I remember how embarrassed this mechanism begin. My first made ​​aware of the limitations of my own look. Although not so bad, I look closer to the ugly rather than handsome. In little time it actually feels very ugliness. Even without having to do any shame and one I've usually nervous to come up with this mediocre looking. Then what would happen if it looks damaged, behavior were also broken? This question seems simple, but the effect is very fundamental. Slowly, there is encouragement that I do not want bad twice. Looks ugly, ugly behavior. I am not likely to change the look, but I certainly can change behavior.

I imagine that the bad is I who is also a fraud, really creates a sense of shame that dense. So what else is left in my life when all the values ​​were all damaged. Shame that I raise in intensity from time to time until today. The result, while I can not pull my mistakes in the past, at least, shame it makes me able to apologize in today. But most importantly, I can prevent the same error no longer occurs in today.

Management of such shame really change your life and these changes seemed not to be born if I had never made a disgrace. So there is a type of failure and disgrace even once did actually born just to deflect manusiake a better direction. If you are facing a dead end, that's an opportunity for you to think about the new road. That is a successful failure. So failure is not just important, but should. Because it is a "must" here, a failure must be greeted with a calm and if necessary, feasible grateful. Because once again, if someone finds a dead end, that's the time he must find a new path.

But have you ever seen a failure that only led to a new failure? Lots. Amid the onslaught of malls and mini-example, obvious dangers of being surrounded various grocery shops from all over. To survive it, obviously they already require a very hard business. Especially if it wants to compete and thrive. He'll need all-out push habsian. But let push yourself, what happened instead a lot of speed up the movement of his own death.

For some reason, actually I still like shopping in a grocery shop no matter how simple they are. The place is dingy and the lights are grim. But I reiterate, to them I did not ask for much (because it is not possible), asalmereka quite friendly to the buyer, that's all. But how is it that even the friendliness of sellers just do not have, but that's their latest merchandise. If even the last bullet is no longer being owned, I do not see any possibility of again unless forced to let him die. That failure is a failure. Failure that does not deflect the direction but merely had to sharpen her wrong. Clearer example is to imagine how people who are want to pay off debt but not by enough to pay for it but penagihnya gang. Believe me, this person's debt would have so many offspring, even getting into unexpected territory.